If you don’t change now, When?

One night it all came to a head, I just didn’t want to go on, I couldn’t take it anymore, so I found myself curled up on the floor, crying, drunk and wanting to give up. You might know this feeling, maybe not to my extent, but the hopelessness, what is wrong with me feelings…am I right?

My journey began over a decade ago, I was completely out of control, over spending, drinking, mad at the world, my husband left me for a younger woman, and I was running out of money, hope and faith. The only thing that made me smile, was my cat Hula. She was so soulful and always knew how I was feeling. When I would cry, she would snuggle up to me, and I felt all was good in that moment.

Those Hula moments were fleeting, and on that fateful night, I was feeling so low and said to myself “what is wrong with me,” why can’t I get my life together?” “Why am I continually struggling, with money, life, relationships” “I am a good person,” “maybe I am just not lucky”

Do you ever hear yourself saying those words? Come on be honest!

Well I did, and as I sat on the floor listening to myself, playing the victim, I suddenly realized, no one can fix this but me. Money didn’t fix it, I made it, then spent it. So it has to be me, my behaviors, I need to change my life.

You know what I am saying, you may have had a few cries yourself, but didn’t do anything about it. I get it. It is not easy to face our flaws, and acknowledge them, to be truthful, where we are in life, and how we got there. But if you don’t change now, when? That’s what I had to acknowledge to myself, truth.

Do you have trouble being truthful with yourself? It’s OK to answer that, no one is listening but you.

I know I didn’t want to see another day, the way I was feeling, which was numb, fearful and anxious all the time. I had to get out of my own way. Move forward, create and design a life that I wanted, that I was born to live. I had to commit to change!

I needed to make myself a priority because what I was doing wasn’t working. I really had to decide to make and take my life into my own hands. The choice was mine.

I was tired of the crying nights, the lack of self worth, the not good enough syndrome. Playing the victim had to stop, and I had to start being real with me.

So, my journey to loving myself began. I took control of my life because I realized I had a choice, to stay where I was, miserable, or to start making changes and move forward. Yes. It has been a process, I’ve worked hard, with up’s and downs, but a process, that I wouldn’t trade for anything. Today, I am in control and feel empowered every day with the choices I make.

Why do I tell you this story?

because, I know there are a lot of me’s out there, that are going through the same thing I was. You are on the edge, thinking about your struggles, and how you should make yourself a priority, and make better choices. Maybe I am that nudge, because if you don’t change now, when?

Here are 5 Diamonds that changed how I approach my life today, how I figured out the formula, how I finally made peace from within:

Acknowledgment, Forgiveness, Mindfulness, Accountability, and Perseverance. If you work on these, you will lessen your struggles, build confidence, make more money, and understand how to navigate obstacles that life throws us. I walk through this list daily, and it was and is a gamechanger for me, it can do the same for you.

If you want support and accountability to turn your struggles into victory, reach out here.

Patricia Love,

The Rah Rah Coach!!

Patricia Love, The “RahRah” Coach, that’s me, a blogger of Life, motivational and empowerment coach for women, who flip their inner script from “I can’t” Into “I can,” I want women to break through any blocks that have sabotaged their pocketbook and life, so they can live the life they were born to live every day.

After several life traumas and challenges 12 years ago, I was forced to either

give up or get up.

But, as I look back now, I feel lucky I was able to draw on the motivational books and tips that I had studied over the years…but hadn’t put to daily use, until that fateful day, where I knew that I had no choice,

or I would end up as another statistic.

Hard work and personal dedication got me to where I am today and it is my mission to share what I have learned with women who are struggling, with finding themselves, through compassion and accountability.

I now coach other women and am on a mission to motivate and empower you through the skills and techniques I have learned, so you will be armed with tools to use daily, as you face life’s challenges.

All Women deserve abundance and an equal voice!  So I give 10% of my income to help motivate and empower women and girls, to help make that happen.